Years ago, I received the best advice ever about the extramarital
sex activities of husbands who are separated from their wives. Now, I am
passing on that advice. It is very simple.
Wives no matter what you hear. No matter what you see. Respect
yourself and children (if any) and do nothing to bring harm.
Sure, your first impulse will be to exact revenge in its many
forms, but do nothing. Remember, your spouse no longer lives with you, and he is
living a separate life. Though, you may
still love him, addressing an issue that you can do very little about is painful
for all parties.
Should the woman or women he sees be of bad character(s), he
will see it, and in some cases, he may want what he believes he has lost, which
is you.
Remember, many such relationships end with the women reputation
damaged. However, since you and your
husband are legally leading separated lives, both of you should be respected
for your choices.
In addition, and keep in mind, husbands have been known to
lie to such women as to their real marriage status. In this case, should the
woman he is involve make a harmful and threatening issue of your present status
as his wife, or attempt to interfere in your
life, then legal action against her to protect yourself is your only
recourse.
In addition, should you mend your marriage, but the woman and
other people want to remind you that your spouse has had other partners, ignore
them, as their motives are questionable and they may only want to cause harm. You do not have to prove your worth to anyone.
Like I stated before, this is simple advice and you don’t
need a shrink to tell you so.
