A Note about and to the Harassers

There readers of this blog, who do not like what I write. They know that many of the articles here refer to them, not because they are names in these posts, they are not, but because they recognize their deeds. Their evil deeds. My advice to them is this.

If you do not like your evil deeds shown to the world,  do not turn it in my direction. I am a writer. I am a truthful writer, and I conduct my life with the same truthful concept. I do not like liars, thieves, or whore-mongers of either genders. I hate drug pushers and drug dealers. They destroy lives without caring about the harm and/or death they cause. I also despise people who kill household pets, these people are the same as common murders. I dislike false preachers, the kind who profit from the suffering they cause others and knowingly allow their flock to cause harm to innocents. These preachers use religious as weapon rather than the sacred dogma that it is meant to be; and whether they know it or not, their god is the devil.

So, with all this said, this you find yourself, among the above groups, stay the hell out of my life and off my websites. I do not need you and I certainly do want to be associated with you in any manner. I do not like calling the police on you, but by your very acts of evil, leave me no other choice. I know you do not like to being called evil. However, bad deeds are indeed evil deeds. There is only good and evil in this world and you are on the side of evil.

I have now spoken and written the truth. So stop hounding, stalking and trespassing where you know are not welcome and will never be accepted. This too is the results of your deeds.  In addition, the men among you, stop your women from committing evil toward me  as well. I am aware of them also.

Goodbye.

Update: Satan's Cathedral has risen!

Update: It amazes me that these harassers see themselves as holy people when in truth their behaviors makes them stalkers, harassers, abusers, and just down right evildoers. Some of them have taken to driving repeatedly around my avenue whenever we are sitting on our porch. Most of the cars they drive are black, white, and lately red.

Why?

Well, some of them have ties to those drug pushers from the southside of town. If you have followed my post, then you known which pushers I am writing about, again.  Evil never rest. They are the who sold illegal of " that corner" for 3 1/2 years like a fast food restaurant on Fridays' and Saturdays' nights. They group are so bad that they allowed they a teenage boy (a member of their family) to be beaten and stomped by a large group of 15 or more boys of him peer and their adult leader. The drug pushers who are his grandparents or guardians ran in their house and left the boy be beaten. Police were called but by the time they arrived, the beating was over and of course the pushers and the boy denied everything.
These were once in charges of hundreds of small children but their presence in their home was only covered the fat that they were seller illegal drugs.

Ha! I feel no love for such people, and now that they are attempting to use a church and its members to do harm in my new neighborhood is nothing but Satan works, and he and have each and every one of them.

The families in my area need to to aware that though the people may come off as friends and wanting to safe guard our street, they are only using that as an excuse to hide the fact they motives have never change and harm those who oppose us is their real goal.

U.S. Senate Passes Internet Sales Tax Bill

The U.S. Senate passed the Marketplace Fairness Act on Monday to make it easier for states to collect sales tax from merchants on Internet purchases. The margin was 69 to 27. Under the current bill, online sellers that make less than US$1 million in out-of-state sales would be exempt for directly collecting taxes. 

The bill will have to pass the House of Representatives before being signed by President Barack Obama. The president expressed his support for the bill on April 22 during his statement of administration policy.
Thanks to Daniel Zelter for the news tip.
Source: USA Today

A Reflection On Dr. Paul R. Giblin 'Stages Of Growth In Marriage'

In this fast pace society with its ideology of disposable or easy replacement people, we are seeing to more people who neither understand the meaning of marriage nor respect the marriage of others. I tend to believe that the true meaning of a legal marriage and its stages of developments has no meaning to some people because they are either too far from the teaching of church (no matter their denomination) or never took the truism of the Bible serious from the start. However, it is true that the institution of marriage is not a perfect one,  but it is a chosen lifestyle in which two people agreed to accept as long as there is no abuse,  the warts, moles, and all other imperfects that crop up over the decades  of a marriage , as well as the all of good that comes along too.

I believe Dr. Paul R. Giblin in his article 'Stages of Growth in Marriage', which was posted in For your marriage.org, clarified marriage best. Like my husband and I, you will probably see where you stand are in Dr. Giblin’s stages of marriage as well, and if you are lucky like us, you will be able to say “Thank you God, for seeing us through it.” 

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Stages of Growth in Marriage

By Paul R. Giblin, Ph.D.

Growth throughout the marital journey requires openness and flexibility.

Social scientists have observed that marriages typically move through a series of at least

four stages. Each stage presents unique learning opportunities and blessings, along with

challenges and obstacles. Progression through these stages is thought to be cyclic. This

means couples can move through the stages several times in their lives, each time with

an increasing understanding of what is involved for having been there before. Sometimes

these stages can feel like a new marriage. Couples move through these stages at

different rates. Failure to accomplish the tasks of one stage can inhibit movement and

growth through later stages.

Stage One – Romance, Passion, Expansion and Promise

In the beginning of a relationship partners often communicate effortlessly and at length.

They seem to intuit each other’s needs and wishes and go out of their way to please and

surprise each other. Couples begin to develop a strong sense of “we.” Individual

differences are minimized, if noticed at all; partners are very accepting. Joy, excitement,

happiness and hope abound. Partners present and elicit their best selves. Life seems

expansive and promising. It is a time of sharing dreams and romance. At this stage

couples’ prayer is often filled with thanksgiving and praise. God feels very close and

responsive. This is a time to be remembered and cherished.

Stage Two – Settling down and Realization

The high energy and intensity of Stage One inevitably give way to the ordinary and

routine. Ideally, in Stage Two couples learn to deepen their communication skills. They

work to understand and express their wants, needs, and feelings. They learn to be honest

and vulnerable and to listen actively to each other. They become aware of differences not

noticed previously and develop strategies for dealing with them. Couples learn about give

and take, negotiation and accommodation. In prayer they seek clarity about what is going

on within one’s own as well as one’s partner’s heart and mind. For some couples God

may not seem as close while others experience Him more intensely.

Stage Three – Rebellion and Power Struggles

Spouses cannot always live up to each other’s expectations. They will disappoint and

unintentionally hurt each other. They now become intensely aware of their differences and

may use control strategies to bring back the desired balance. Power struggles are

common. Blame, judgment, criticism and defensiveness are likely outcomes. Fear and

anxiety enter the relationship. Couples’ thinking can narrow into either/or, right/wrong,

good/bad polarities.

Ideally, couples learn about forgiveness and accommodation in this stage. They learn to

deal constructively with anger and hurt. A supportive community becomes especially

important.

This is also the time when individuality and independence rise to the surface. While the

early relationship emphasized a strong sense of we, now couples need to find ways to

honor autonomy and separateness. They learn how to be an individual in a committed

relationship. Couples’ prayer is often about petition and spontaneous lament. God can

seem distant and unresponsive and/or quite present

Stage Four – Discovery, Reconciliation, and Beginning Again

Couples can push through the previous stage through deepened communication, honesty

and trust. Ideally, they discover and create a new sense of connection. They learn more

about each other’s strengths and vulnerabilities. They learn to identify and talk about their

fears instead of acting them out. They refuse to judge or blame their partner; they

translate their complaints into requests for change. They move from win/lose to win/win

conflict strategies.

Partners see each other in a new light, as gifted and flawed, just as they themselves are

gifted and flawed. Empathy and compassion increase. They learn to appreciate and

respect each other in new ways; they learn not to take each other for granted. They find a

new balance of separateness and togetherness, independence and intimacy. Their

thinking becomes more expansive and inclusive. A new hope and energy return to the

relationship. Prayer focuses on gratitude and thanksgiving, and couples often move to a

more honest and mature relationship with God.

Additional Challenges and Stages

Many couples will encounter additional life cycle stages, each with their own blessings

and challenges. Just like marriage, creating a family will elicit the best and the worst, the

gifts and the limitations of the parents. It is another opportunity to learn about cooperation

and becoming a team, about dealing with differences and conflicts, and about taking time

to pause and choose. Parenting is a spiritual journey that involves not only the growth of

the children but the growth of the parents. Like marriage, it will have many opportunities

to surrender and die to self, to let go and to grieve.

Other life cycle challenges include illness, unemployment and other financial crises,

retirement, and the death of one’s partner. Many couples must take care of the older

generation while letting go of the younger one.

Conclusion

Growth throughout the marital journey requires openness and flexibility. For people of

faith, it also means being alert to the mysterious working of the Holy Spirit. Contemporary

culture wants answers and certainty; faith requires trust and surrender. The invitation to

the marital journey, and the resources to undertake it, come from God. God gives us

enough clarity to take the next few steps, even if we cannot see the entire road and where

it will end.

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We sincerely hope you found this recreation of Dr. Giblin article, 'Stages of Growth in Marriage,' as informative and beneficial as we have for our marriage.